It is a commonly held belief that someone suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder cannot be helped.   When I met Russian conjoined twins Masha and Dasha Krivoshlyapova, they were in their thirties and I’d never heard of narcissism - neither, of course, had they. In fact, such...

Dasha was a conjoined twin who was born in the USSR in 1950 and spent the first five years of her life with ‘care-givers’ who were scientists studying her and her identical twin Masha in one of Stalin’s laboratories.   It’s not surprising that she and her...

    Three Identical Strangers, the award-winning documentary film about identical triplets, focusses on three boys who were put up for adoption by their mother in New York in 1961. They were placed in three different families by a Freudian psychologist studying nature and nurture. The study...

  People caught up in abusive relationships feel as if they’re trapped in a padded prison. There seems to be no way to escape from your ‘other half’ and for Dasha this of course was true a hundred fold. Victims are undermined, dominated and made to feel...

I met a friend today who has terminal cancer and asked her what her advice would be to those who have their life before them. She said it would be to seize opportunities in life and pursue your dreams.   That’s easier said than done. Confidence is...

  Masha and Dasha were bullied. First by the scientists who took them from their parents to study them like guinea pigs. Then by those in authority in the institutions where they were forced to live. Since they had two different personalities they reacted in two different ways. Sensitive...

    I’ve had my share of problems in life, love and relationships. But there’s always been help at hand. Whether it’s through the therapy I went through with my two husbands and more recently as a singleton, or through friends, family, on line forums, psychiatry sites on...

  You’re comfortable in your job, your marriage, your house, your town and your country. You don’t want to rock the boat. Or maybe you’re not? Perhaps you think that if you could just pluck up the courage it might be exciting and more fulfilling to step...

  Dasha kept the letters of the boy she fell in love with under her pillow all her life. She never forgot him. She created an imaginary life with him – the one she could have had if they had both been ‘healthies’ instead of ‘defectives.’ This fantasy...

‘Do you wish you’d been killed at birth?’ I’d been walking around the grounds of the 6th Home for the Elderly with Masha and Dasha and one of the old ladies there asked them that question. It got asked a lot. As usual, Masha dismissed it with a...